Floating away from the toxic
Toxic energy, we’ve all come across it at one time or another. Whether it is toxic people, toxic work places, toxic situations or toxic relationships, the negative energy follows you around like a black cloud and it is not comfortable at all.
Towards the end of last year, when I was surrounded by a lot of toxic energy, I realized that I could actually remove myself from the negativity. I know, it’s pretty obvious and a lot of people already know that, however at the time I didn’t. It was only when I started respecting and loving myself that I realized I wasn’t going to remain in the negative situations, because quite simply, I didn’t deserve it. And neither do you, so here are some ways that you can deal with toxic energy, in particular toxic people.
**Note: when I refer to ‘toxic people’, I don’t mean they are bad people. I don’t believe anyone is born ‘bad’, but I do believe that people can make bad decisions or act in bad/negative ways, therefore are perceived as bad.
I know it sounds cliché, but as I said, when you love and respect yourself you just don’t accept people treating you like crap. It’s a big no no because you know that you are worth a whole lot more. When you don’t love yourself you will often make excuses for people treating you poorly, or you question what you did to make them treat you like that. Let me answer your question before you ask it-YOU DID NOTHING. If someone is constantly treating you bad, it is not a reflection of you, it is a reflection of him or her and you need to respect yourself in order to see that!
Avoid at all Costs
Avoid toxic people like the plague. If you’re wondering how to spot a toxic person you need to know what a toxic person is. A toxic person is someone who is very unhappy within themselves therefore they treat others like crap. This includes putting others down, gossiping about people (including their friends), constantly fighting with someone or anyone, thinking that they are above others, judging people, having problems with lots of people….you get my gist. Toxic people are ALWAYS surrounded by drama of some sort, they thrive off it and usually they are the ones who have caused it. Like, who the hell wants to be surrounded by drama 24/7? Not me, I can watch Days of our Lives for my daily drama intake thanks.
Now that you know how to spot a toxic person, please avoid them, for your own sake.
When you can’t avoid them
I know, I know, sometimes we just can’t avoid these people. It could be because they are a family member, a close friend or a work colleague, which means it’s somebody you just can’t cut out. The most important thing to know in these situations is that these toxic people behave in terrible ways because they are unhappy with themselves. Someone talks down to you? It’s probably because they are feeling insecure so they need to put another person down in order to push themselves up or make themselves feel better. So please, try not to take their behaviour to heart. In actual fact, I often feel sorry for these people; I mean why else would you treat someone like crap unless you were feeling like crap?
Think of it like this, would you rather be in their position or yours? I know that I would rather be the happy, kind and positive person then the angry, spiteful and jealous one.
Sometimes we can’t just stand by and allow these toxic people to continue to make us feel worthless, nah uh, we need to speak up. When I say ‘speak up’ I don’t mean you should confront certain people and abuse them, I mean you need to voice your thoughts and feelings in a tactful and considerate way. You should tell these people how they have made you feel and that you don’t agree with their behaviour. Sometimes this actually ends up being the wake up call that they need, because sometimes they just don’t realise exactly what they’re doing and you may be able to help them act in a better way. But when you do share your feelings make sure you aren’t being nasty; be the bigger person and be 100% honest, don’t beat around the bush, after all your feelings are just as valid as theirs.
Being brutal doesn’t mean you should be nasty to any one, it means you need to be brutal when cutting toxic people out of your life. It is brutal because sometimes it’s bloody hard for you to do, because you may be losing a close friend and that’s always difficult. But let me tell you, in the long run you’ll thank yourself (and who knows, maybe you will cross paths again and that old friend may have grown and changed).
It all comes down to the fact that these people probably aren’t bringing anything positive to your life, therefore you don’t really need them around. When I realised that only I had the power to remove these people from my life, I began cutting left right and centre. I know it sounds terrible, but I think that both them and I are better of from it. It is what it is, so get on your happy cloud and float away from the toxic.
Surround yourself with LOVE
The most important thing in our lives are the people around us, they are the ones who laugh with us and cry with us, the people who make our lives what they are. So that’s why it is so important to surround yourself with beautiful and positive people who love and believe in YOU. It’s not about quantity, you could have a hundred shit friends who couldn’t care if you dropped off the face of the earth, or you could have one amazing friend who checks up on you if she doesn’t hear from you in a day. Which would you prefer?
Don’t surround yourself with lots of people if you’re still going to feel alone, they aren’t real friends. Surround yourself with the ones who care, in fact, these people often feel more like family then friends. As long as you are surrounded by love, toxic energy will bounce off you and you will constantly feel strong and supported.
Love and positivity is the real key babes xxx