My Journey of Reconnection
A year or so ago I had been going through a difficult time in my life; I had no self-confidence, low self-esteem, no self-love and had lost who I was (don’t worry, you’ll hear about this in due time). This lead to me having quite bad anxiety and no control over my emotions, which lead to frequent outbursts and periods of darkness. I turned to quick fix options for my problems, which didn’t work at all. I was under the false impression that I could deal with everything myself and that I was ‘fine’ when in fact all I was doing was harming myself mentally, putting myself last and hindering my healing.
A friend kept telling me to give life coaching a go, however because I felt that I was doing okay, I never went. Towards the end of last year I decided that I no longer wanted to settle for quick fixes and instead wanted to heal myself properly. It took a lot of courage for me to go to life coaching as I didn’t want to share the parts of me that I felt were damaged as I was ashamed. I also had my reservations as I felt that simply talking to someone would not help me. I was certainly wrong. My life coach was Steph and she helped me to uncover and heal those parts of me that I had pushed to the side. We didn’t just talk, but worked on strategies to implement in my day-to-day life that helped me heal and reconnect with my true self. Some strategies were so simple, yet they have had such a profound impact on my life and me as a person. Two simple (but also difficult at times) acts that really helped me connect to my core self, was meditating and learning how to put myself first.
You are your Number One
You might think that putting yourself first sounds selfish; I thought the same at first. However, if you don’t put yourself first, you are of no use to anyone else. If you are not whole or you don’t love yourself, there is no way that you can love another person the way that they deserve. Putting yourself first isn’t about ignoring the needs of others or thinking that your needs are more important, it’s about addressing your needs so that you are okay to be there for others when they need you. It’s also about knowing when to stop helping others and allow them to help themselves. At the end of the day we are the ones who need to love and care for ourselves and every single person should be doing the same thing. If you don’t love and care for yourself, how do you expect another person to love and care for you?
Meditate to Reconnect
You should never underestimate the power of meditation; it is the key to a peaceful mind. We live in such a busy world, with very little time to stop and be mindful. Meditation certainly helps me to do that, it helps me to stop and reconnect with myself, to slow my mind and calm my thoughts. During my coaching we used meditation a lot to help me connect to positive energy and distance myself from any hurt, anger and pain I was holding on to.
The most powerful moment in my life coaching was when I noticed a change within myself, I started to feel lighter, as if I had truly healed and become me again. This was so significant for me as I really did believe that I would never change my mental state, I felt it was impossible. It’s great when others see a change in you, but it is even more amazing when you notice that change within yourself. Through my work with Steph, I was able to re-discover the love and respect I used to have for myself and re-connect to the spiritual aspects of myself that I had neglected.
This experience was life changing and it was something I truly needed to reconnect to my spiritual self. It marked the beginning of a new, braver Adriana and I will forever be grateful for it. I would certainly recommend anyone who is feeling disconnected from themselves or a little lost to try life coaching, as it will truly change your life. Do it for yourself, do it for your soul.